Top 10 Reasons Why People Hate You
We spend countless hours staring in the mirror, reading magazines, scanning fashion blogs and idolizing terrible people to try to get any sort of insight on how to dress up and look better. We go through all this trouble because deep down, we just want people to like us. And respect us. And do things with/for/to us. But maybe we’re just focusing on the wrong things. It could be something as simple as…
10. You complain too much.
The Problem:
It’s always raining, either literally or metaphorically. You’ve got too much to do, the coffee in the machine is gross, Mark in the next cubicle breathes too loud, it’s too cold, your chair is too swivelly. Everyone hates a whiner.
Solution:
When you complain, pair it with a solution. Every person loves a solution but never a complaint. Be in charge of your own actions.
9. You Treat People Disrespectfully
The Problem:
When you demonstrate a lack of respect for others, you injure their feelings, their self-confidence, and their self-esteem. Furthermore, if you treat them disrespectfully, you will never garner their respect in return. Friends are feelings-oriented people who are like radar machines scoping out the work environment. When you talk over them, belittle their ideas, ignore their input, and criticize them unfairly, they feel disrespected.
Solution:
Treat others the same way you treat yourself.
8. Everything Is About You
The Problem:
Are you the center of other people’s world? Everything starts with you and ends with you? Do you formulate expectations for friends and family based on whether their outcomes will make you look good? Worst, do you chastise others for errors or unmet goals because they made you look bad? When everything is all about the you, friends know and they hate you.
Solution:
Give everyone a break. Everyone makes mistakes, including you. If in a conversation you are speaking a monologue for 30 minutes, it’s best that you stop right there and then.
7. You come off too desperate
The Problem:
Never tell a woman “was that good for you?” It’s almost as bad a question as “How many people have you been with sexually” is the query “How was that?” You could be the world’s worst lover and if the woman loves you, she’ll lie and say you’re the best she ever had. She’ll lie, this time with words, instead of telling the truth.
Solution:
Instead Say: “That was amazing.” If you want to know how you did, without asking bluntly, tell her how good she was in bed. She’ll have to respond in some way, but at least she won’t have to lie.
6. You Don’t Say You’re Sorry (For Things You Have No Reason To Apologize For)
The Problem:
We all know that annoying person who seems to apologize for every little thing, even if they did nothing wrong. We feel bad that we’re getting irritated, since they’re just doing that to be nice or because they’re nervous. We’ve all been that person too, whether it’s a first date and you’re apologizing for the movie being not-as-good as you thought it’d be, or it starts raining and you apologize that everything is wet and now you can’t go to the concert even though you totally forgot to buy tickets.
Well, sorry to say (haha for real, hilarious), but according to studies conducted by researchers at Harvard Business School and the University of Pennsylvania, saying you’re sorry for no reason makes you appear more trustworthy and likable.
The experiments revealed that when we hear a superfluous/unnecessary apology, we feel as though the apologizer is showing emphatic concern for us, which in turn causes us to feel trust towards them. Sort of a, “you care, so now I care.”
Furthermore, University of North Carolina studies found that speaking with hesitation and without confidence will make others respect and like you more in group settings than if you spoke with power and assertiveness. Meaning that Chuckie Finster would’ve make a better group leader than Tommy Pickles.
Solution:
Start every sentence with an apology for something you have no responsibility or control over. For instance, “I’m sorry that you’re a Lakers fan. That’s really unfortunate and I apologize. Can you cover rent this month?” That might work. Bad joke, sorry.
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