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SUNLIGHT SPOTLIGHT: 7 extraordinary benefits to overcoming self-sabotage
By: Mike Bundrant
(NaturalNews)
Self-sabotage happens when you knowingly or unknowingly act as your own worst enemy. When it happens, you often end up doing the exact opposite of what would make you happy and successful.
If you were to look under the surface, you’d discover that most failed goals, relationships, businesses and dreams have deeply subconscious roots in self-sabotage. We tend to get in our own way – and do it consistently. Then, we hide the unpleasant truth from ourselves through various psychological defense mechanisms, such as blaming others, becoming angry and frustrated, distracting ourselves or even getting super confused and what is going on. Thus, we maintain the pattern and keep less of what we love and more of what we hate.
What if you didn’t self-sabotage, though? What if you totally got out of denial and out of your own way, permanently? It’s possible. You can largely eradicate self-sabotage from your life. If you did, you’d immediately begin to reap the following seven extraordinary benefits.
1. Solid decision-making
Poor, impulsive decisions are a set up for failure. When you make a self-sabotaging decision, you have to get very lucky in order for things to work out. Here are some examples:
• Saying yes to marriage when you have serious doubts about the person you are with. This one is more common than you think. In fact, some people fight of serious doubts or even the knowledge that they are with the wrong person, even as they are walking down the aisle.
• Starting a business without experience, funds or a viable plan. Why do most businesses fail? For these reasons.
• Making purchases that you cannot afford. Consumerism wouldn’t be the same if we all bought only what we could afford, realistically.
• Doing something with your life for the sole purpose of pleasing someone else. Again, this is oh-so-common. Some people live out their lives without discovering what they really want apart from pleasing others.
• Saying yes even though you mean no. Healthy boundaries are so uncommon!
Essentially, self-sabotaging decisions overlook all the red flags, good advice and sound logic that lead to happiness and success.
If you had no self-sabotaging tendencies, you’d make much better, more mature decisions. Decisions would be patient, timely, set up for success and aligned with who you are.
2. Incredible self-discipline
A lack of self-discipline leads to emptiness and misery. When you don’t control your eating, spending, study habits, time, excessive behaviors and emotions, you lose a grip on life.
If you had no self-sabotaging tendencies, you’d follow through with your plans, exercise even when feel down or lazy, be strict with what goes into your body, honor your commitments and motivate yourself even when it is difficult to do so.
Self-sabotage encourages you to take the easy way out, but that is a self-deception. The easy way out is often the path to difficulty, pain and failure.
3. Fulfilling, workable relationships
Relationships are perhaps the ultimate test of…
Source: http://truthisscary.com/2014/02/sunlight-spotlight-7-extraordinary-benefits-to-overcoming-self-sabotage/
