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I was talking to someone after my class last night who is going through a hard divorce. She said something to the effect of, “It’s like, you never know. What life will bring. You never know what the future will hold.” And it might seem like, “Duh, lady.” But it’s true.
You don’t. You have no idea what the future will bring.
It’s hard when you are IN something, or WITH someone, to think that it won’t ALWAYS be THIS way.
You may be really enlightened, (or more enlightened than me), but it’s sometimes hard for me to grasp that I won’t be here forever. Or that my mom won’t. Or that things might change. (They will!) No one is owed anything.
We have glimpses of it. My friend, comedian Steve Bridges, dropping dead suddenly was one such instance. I got really really clear that there are no guarantees.
Recently, I went through an ectopic pregnancy and experienced the worst physical pan of my life. I became incredibly grateful, not just for my health, but for my life in its entirety. At least immediately after the ectopic happened. Immediately after Steve died I was as present as I’d ever been. Barring these things happening, or people dying, we have to trust that nothing lasts forever, that things might and can and will change.
We have to trust that being present is the absolute only alternative.
I was reminded of this talking to that woman last night when she said “you just never know,” because, truth be told, I think I take some things for granted.
I am not owed anything. Neither are you.
I always promise real talk in my writing here on Positively Positive, and in my classes, retreats, etc. and this is as real talkish as it gets. The truth is that Yes, it’s hard to sometimes accept that things won’t always be “this” way; whether “this way” is: good or bad or any of the other adjectives we use to describe our situations and lives.