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A Key to Good Habits? Don’t Allow Ourselves to Feel Deprived
A few days ago, I read Gretchen Reynolds’s piece in the New York Times, Losing weight may require some serious fun, about a study that makes a point that I think is incredibly important.
In the study, women were sent to walk a one-mile course in the next half hour, with lunch to follow.
–Half were told that their walk was meant to be exercise, and they should think of it that way, and monitor their exertion as they walked.
–Half were told that the walk would be for pleasure; they’d listen to music through headphones and rate the sound quality, but they should mostly enjoy themselves.
Afterward, they were asked to estimate mileage, mood, and calorie expenditure.
The “exercise” group reported feeling more tired and grumpy — and at lunch afterwards, they ate significantly more sweets than the “for fun” group. (The piece discusses other studies that show the same kind of result.)
Reading this study reminded me of one of my important conclusions about habits: If we want to stick to our good habits, we should try very hard never to allow ourselves to feel deprived.
When we feel deprived, we try to make things right for ourselves. We begin to say things like “I’ve earned this,” “I deserve this,” “I’ve been so good, it’s okay for me to do this,” “I’ll just do this now, that’s fair, but tomorrow I’ll be good.”
Feeling deprived means that we’ll feel justified in invoking many of the most pernicious loopholes: the MoralLicensing loophole, the Tomorrow loophole, and the Fake Self-Actualization loophole.
The lure of loopholes is why the Strategy of Loophole-Spotting is so important.
Once I realized how dangerous it was to allow ourselves to feel deprived, I grasped the importance of the Strategy of Treats. It’s a delightful strategy, yes, but it’s not frivolous or selfish.
Treats help us to feel energized, restored, and light-hearted. Without them, we can start to feel resentful, depleted, and irritable.
Source: http://truthisscary.com/2014/06/a-key-to-good-habits-dont-allow-ourselves-to-feel-deprived/
