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How To Feel Powerful Everyday
We’re always looking for power whether we know it or not. It is something that we need in order to thrive. Without it, we cannot make change, we feel hopeless and unable to make a difference in the world. A life without power is a sad one.
According to Google, “Power” is defined as ‘the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events. “the idea that men should have power over women”‘
That means that unless we direct or influence those in our lives, we’re completely powerless. Imagine the problems this type of belief would create within relationships. One partner would always have power over the other in order for them to have a healthy self-esteem. That leaves the other partner feeling negative and weak. This wrestling over who-wears-the-pants is extremely damaging to both parties. How can you feel truly uplifted and strengthened in your relationship if you’re always fighting for the upper hand?
Avoid Feeling Like A Victim
I fell victim to this type of thinking for most of my life. I quickly defended myself whenever I felt that I was being challenged or unappreciated.
Don’t get me wrong. Being strong is healthy and necessary to have a great relationship but I took this “fight for power” to the extreme. It was as if, “power” and “equality” were tangible items that I could get a piece of if I fought hard enough for them. So fight I did.
“Don’t talk to me like that!”
“Don’t leave your shoes there!”
“YOU wash the dishes!”
And on and on.
There were so many avoidable arguments.
When we fight for power, we reaffirm to ourselves that we do not have it within us. We become bullies that are only satisfied when the other gives us our way. It’s a primitive need that we’re moving past now, as conscious individuals.
As evolved beings, power no longer needs to be defined as influence or control over another but as “The capacity or ability to direct or control our own behavior despite external influences.”
Source: http://truthisscary.com/2014/07/how-to-feel-powerful-everyday/
