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Wayne Cordeiro > How to Counsel Towards Resolution
Part of your role as a pastor or staff leader in the church is to counsel people under your care.
The people that come to you are in spiritual warfare. Your goal is to move towards quick resolution in a biblical manner backed by Scripture. There is a huge difference between being empathetic about their situation or bringing about a resolution that connects the person back to Christ.
I hope the following information helps you in your counseling sessions:
1. Give the person direction by asking questions
Do everything you can to turn their hearts towards God and weave the truth around the mental roadblocks where they cannot see what is right. Move them out of the cloud of confusion and bring to them the Truth that will set them free. Some of these questions may be helpful:
- What do you want to happen?
- If this is resolved, what will it look like?
- What will your future look like?
- What are you willing to do?
- What price are you willing to pay in order to bring everything to wholeness in a way that is pleasing to Christ?
- How much pain do you want in your life before it’s resolved?
- What do you want me to do?
2. Don’t endorse an action that’s unbiblical
Opt for the truth. God’s mantle is on you. Do not shy away from correcting a behavior you know is not right.
Finally, a word on guidelines for counseling that will protect you and the church:
You are trustworthy but the devil is not. He knows the vulnerability of the human heart. The ideal counseling would be for a sister to counsel a sister and a brother to meet with a brother. Put emotional guardrails on your heart and if you have to counsel the opposite sex, do so in a public place such as at a coffee house.
I hope these tips help you. Always remember, the best thing you can do is to steer the hurting towards Jesus, our Healer and Restorer.
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This post for originally posted at MentoringLeaders.com.
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About Wayne Cordeiro
Wayne Cordeiro is the founding pastor of New Hope Christian Fellowship in Honolulu, Hawaii with over 14,500 in weekend attendance. New Hope is also listed as one of the top ten most innovative churches in America with Outreach Magazine listing them as one of the “top five churches to learn from.” New Hope is known for redeeming the arts and technology. Over 3000 attending services each week via the Internet. New Hope has seen over 73,000 first time decisions in Hawaii since its inception 26 years ago.
Wayne is a church planter at heart with over 108 churches planted in the Pacific Rim countries of the Philippines, Japan, Australia and Myanmar. Nationally, he has planted churches in Hawaii, California, Montana, Washington, and Nevada.
He has recently accepted the role as President over his alma mater, Eugene Bible College, now known as New Hope Christian College. NHCC is now part of a consortium of Pacific Rim Christian Colleges with locations in Hawaii, Oregon, Myanmar, and Tokyo.
He has authored ten books, including such classics as Doing Church as a Team, Dream Releasers, Seven Rules of Success, Attitudes That Attract Success, Divine Mentor, Leading on Empty and The Encore Church. Wayne is also the author of the Life Journal, which is being used by thousands of churches worldwide, is bringing people back to the Word of God.
Pastor Wayne and his wife, Anna, have three married children and four grandchildren. His hobbies include music, reading, water sports, and riding his Harley Davidson. Wayne and Anna now split their time between Hawaii and Eugene, Oregon where they have a family farm. There he leads New Hope Christian College, writes, and enjoys spending time with his grandchildren.
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