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How Prejudice Creates Grief

Friday, February 22, 2013 6:51

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We are all born into a world filled with and built on prejudice, which the dictionary defines as preconceived ideas.

We are all socialized into the existing prejudicial arrangements.

Although we cannot escape the reality of prejudice in the human condition, we can challenge it.

Before we can, however, we need an understanding of prejudice and, if possible, some new insights.

5 Reasons Prejudice Exists

There are five important reasons why prejudice exists:

we use categories to quickly process information. Our threat processing minds use categories as a defense against outside threats. We learn that a hot stove can hurt so hot stove is a category of potential harm. From our earliest days we are building up an inventory of causes of potential harm. Some we learn from experience and others are passed down to us from our family and social group. Sometimes we question our perceptions and assumptions. Most of the time, however, we probably do not question what we consider to be potentially harmful. Since we are all vulnerable creatures we often protect ourselves by being “safe rather than sorry.”
we survive through the support and protection of our social group or “tribe.” We adopt the attitudes and beliefs of that group as a way to maintain our membership. We are built to live in groups. One way we know that is that our brains give us an error message when we deviate from group norms, according to research on how brain supports social conformity. So not only are we meant to live in groups, but our brains reinforce our conforming with our group. Not to do so will raise a perception of threat in the mind. We will continue to feel a threat whenever we act outside of group norms unless the consciousness of the group changes.
groups create structures around their beliefs, which also reinforce them. Because social structures require a significant investment in time and other resources, it can be difficult to change them. In addition, since people develop skills that enable them to succeed within a particular structural system, they may not have the skills for a different social arrangement.
we often form our identities around our social group and our place in it. It can come to feel like “home,” making it difficult for us to envision a different set of ircumstances for ourselves. Often we treat our circumstances as reality, when they are really a situation, and situations can change. Losing our group and individual identities can seem very threatening.
group norms, structures and identities all have a profound effect in that they create and perpetuate expectations. Expectations can be comforting. They can help us feel that we understand or know our world when in fact we do not. They give us predictability and stability in a world that is always changing.

How Prejudice Creates Grief

Prejudice is a natural result of our efforts to create stability for ourselves. Cultural systems inevitably value some characteristics over others, causing us to feel that parts of ourself are not welcome. The result will be feelings of loss of:

our openness
our wonder
our innocent trust
our true self
our status as co-creators of our world with others
our hope of being welcome fully as ourselves
our self-respect our dreams

All arrangements that promote stability do so at the expense of our true and whole self. Our feeling of loss can be reinforced when we interact with others. We may feel unseen. It does not matter what the prejudice is, we can still feel rewounded. The pain can drive out our true selves and cause us to withdraw our best self, and a process of self diminishment can develop and even accelerate.

The Path To Recovery

Recovery from the wounds of prejudice can take some time.

Here are some important steps you can take to support your own healing:

set up a grieving process for yourself. Group therapy and writing in journals can be very helpful in finding acceptance for your pain.
develop a health program for yourself. Every act of self care is a validation of your life. It is something you deserve and it feels good.
find some energy healing practices life EFT, reiki and meditation to help you heal since they can address deeply buried hurt.
recognize the greatest causes of reinjury for yourself and start to move away from them into activities and social groups that offer greater self-acceptance.

Prejudice and all the pain and emotional harm it does often hurts our health. Reclaiming our health is part of reclaiming our lives.

Deep seated prejudices are being questioned more and more as the world becomes kinder.

As the world changes, we will all benefit and feel better, but as the process unfolds we all need to do our part by engaging with our own grief and grieving process as we join with others to create a world that we all want to live in.

It is worth the effort.

We are worth the effort.