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Relationship management for women – dating advice with a warning
An article in the Herald talks about women using managerial skills to “manage” their partner in a relationship. An interesting idea, though it comes with a warning. You have to wonder sometimes whether management in this case is not just another word for mothering. By telling women to take control of the relationship, you could easily step into dangerous grounds, where you’re encouraging women to lead, whereas the men sit back and do nothing.
I’m always wary of relationship advice for women that involves manipulating or overthinking the natural interaction between men and women in a supposedly loving relationship and this is the warning attached to this idea as well, from Lisa O’Hara of Relationships Ireland. Maybe it’s all a matter of your idea of what constitutes managerial skills. O’Hara stresses the need to be clear about their wants and needs, in the same way a good manager would set down clear goals. But a good manager is also one who doesn’t make this sort of interaction feel like the relationship between a boss and an employee. In business, it’s often those managers who are friendly and down to earth with their underlings who get the most stuff done, as people actually care enough to put the effort in. This is even more important in a relationship, where both partners should be on equal grounds. While some men may feel comfortable being bossed around and some women may feel more comfortable being in control, this method is certainly not right for everyone. Being open, friendly and honest about your needs is therefore the best lesson to take away from the business world. Best leave the bossing around to the office.
2012-12-13 18:04:49
Source: http://blog.parship.ie/relationship-management-for-women-dating-advice-with-a-warning.html
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