Responses to It Hurts
by Reb Akiva @ Mystical Paths
- May you find strength in the situation that you have… I, too have my fears and do not wish to post here.
Thank you. We are all afraid for our youth, the next generation. But because it’s being treated like a contagious disease, not much is being done about it on a communal level – unfortunately.
- How sad. All the sacrifices and this? Makes me angry. Makes me think G-d is cruel. How can I serve such a G-d?
His ways are not our ways, His calculations are not our calculations. Many a young child declares his hate for his parents who sent him to bed (on time), prevented him from eating all the candy, or preventing him from jumping off the roof at risk of serious injury. And the teen who raged against his parents for moving him away from his friends to a new neighborhood that the parents had to choose for job or cost reasons. We do not understand, but we have faith that G-d’s plan is for the best.
- I was very saddened by your most recent post tonight, even before I knew one of the stories was yours. I just want you to know that I will be praying for you and your family (and also for the other families).
Prayer is good, but also consider taking some action. It’s time to support organizations and people addressing these problems, helping the children and helping the parents.
- Is this one of the tests before the coming of Moshiach? I certainly hope so, because nothing else makes sense.
As I said at the top of my article, neither did the horrors of the past (from our limited perspective). Is this more painful than losing children to disease, to progroms, or to the Holocaust? Thank G-d, I don’t know. How do we make sense of the pains and troubles of this world? That’s the place of Emunah (faith).
- In my humble opinion, one of the real tragedies here is that the parents (with all the right intentions) relied on rabbis with the long, grey beards to help their children rather than EDUCATED, TRAINED and PROFESSIONAL psychologists. The charedi world simply doesn’t contain all the remedies for the complex maladies of this generation. This is no criticism, it’s the reality!!!
Plenty of parents are using professionals, psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, etc. The yeshivas are very quick today to refer behavioral problems to the professionals. Over 10% of boys in the average yeshiva are on ADHD medications, others on various anti-psychotics and anti-depressants. Some have found such things to help, others… no. You can safely assume if there were solutions with a good percentage of positive outcomes happening, the charedi parents would be flocking to them.
This also includes the “trouble” and “recovery” yeshivas – which today are being run by rabbis with long grey beards and degrees in psychotherapy, addiction counseling and behavioral counseling. If they reach 50% success, they’re thrilled.
- Only one of them is you? The first three examples are ME! I am seriously ready to give up.
Hang in there, we’re rooting for you! I know exactly how you feel, and if “giving up” was a guaranteed solution plenty would try that as well. But since our children have moved into dangerous behaviors, I can’t imagine “giving up” is going to create a context that would help.
- May Hashem send a spiritual refuah for your precious child. We had one thrown out of yeshiva, thought it was the end of the world, cv”s, however 3 years later, he is slowly coming back. Us giving him the freedom to go to university gave him the freedom to start finding Hashem on his own terms. May we all be blessed with Yiddishe naches from our kinderlach.
Amein.
Source: http://www.mpaths.com/2013/12/responses-to-it-hurts.html
