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Excuse Me, Gay is Not Good

Monday, March 11, 2013 7:57
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Charles W. Socarides, M.D., (1922-2005) was clinical professor of psychiatry at Albert Einstein College of Medicine/Montefiore
Medical Center in New York. Over 40 years, he treated hundreds of gays and helped ABOUT 35% of them return to heterosexuality.

This is the second part of “How America Went Gay” the classic 1995 essay
 by Charles Socarides, the psychiatrist who pioneered the treatment of homosexuality.

Here he explains the root causes of homosexuality which are anything but normal.

[My patients] were caught up in this mysterious
compulsion to have sex with other men
. They were not free. They were not
happy. And they wanted to see if they could change.

Part One is here

by Charles Socarides
M.D.
(Edited & Abridged by henrymakow.com)

Excuse me. Gay is not good. Gay is not
decidedly free. How do I know this? For more than 40 years, I have been
in solidarity with hundreds of homosexuals, my patients, and I have
spent most of my professional life engaged in a kind of
“pastoral care” on their behalf.

But I do not help them by telling them
they are O.K. when they are not O.K.

Nor do I endorse their “new claim
to self-definition and self-respect.”

gaypride2.jpgTell me: Have we dumped the idea
that a man’s self-esteem comes from something inside himself (sometimes
called character) and from having a good education, a good job and a
good family-and replaced that notion with this, that he has an affinity
to love (and have sex with) other men?

In point of fact, many of
my patients had character; they had an education; they were respected ad
men and actuaries and actors. But they were still in pain-for one
reason and one reason alone. They were caught up in this mysterious
compulsion to have sex with other men
. They were not free. They were not
happy. And they wanted to see if they could change.

Over the
years, I found that those of my patients who really wanted to change
could do so, by attaining the insight that comes with a good
psychoanalysis. Others found other therapies that helped them get to the
bottom of their compulsions, all of which involved high motivation and
hard work. Difficult as their therapeutic trips were, hundreds and
thousands of homosexuals changed their ways. Many of my own formerly
homosexual patients-about a third of them-are married today and happily
so, with children. One-third may not sound like a very good average. But
it is just about the same success rate you will find at the best
treatment centers for alcoholics, like Hazelden in Minnesota and the
Betty Ford Clinic in California.

Another third of my patients
remain homosexual but not part of the gay scene. Now, after therapy,
they still have same-sex sex, but they have more control over their
impulses because now they understand the roots of their need for
same-sex sex. Some of these are even beginning to turn on to the
opposite sex. I add this third to my own success rate-so that I can tell
people in all honesty that my batting average is .667 out of more than a
thousand “at bats.”

Of course, I could bat .997 if I told all my
patients in pain that their homosexuality was “a special call” and “a
liberation.” That would endear me to everyone, but it would not help
them. It would be a lie-despite recent pieces of pseudo-science
bolstering the fantasy that gays are “born that way.”

The media put its
immediate blessing on this “research,” but we were oversold. Now we are
getting reports, even in such gay publications as The Journal of
Homosexuality,
that the gay-gene studies and the gay-brain studies do
not stand up to critical analysis. (The author of one so-called
“gay-gene theory” is under investigation by the National Institutes of
Health for scientific fraud.)

CAUSES OF HOMOSEXUAL DISORDER

I was not surprised to hear this.
My long clinical experience and a sizable body of psychoanalysis
research tell me that most [homosexuals]are reacting, at an unconscious level, to something
amiss with their earliest upbringing- over-controlling mothers and
abdicating fathers.
Through long observation I have also learned that
the supposedly liberated homosexual is never really free. In his
multiple, same-sex adventures, even the most effeminate gay was looking
to incorporate the manhood of others, because he was in a compulsive,
never-ending search for the masculinity that was never allowed to build
and grow in early childhood…

Once
my patients have achieved an insight into these dynamics-and realized
there is no moral fault involved in their longtime and mysterious
need-they have moved rather quickly on the road to recovery. Their
consequent gratitude to me is overwhelming. And why shouldn’t it be?
They were formerly caught up in compulsions they could not understand,
compulsions they could not control. Now they are in charge of their own
lives.

Their former promiscuity may have looked a lot like
“liberation.” But it was not true freedom. It was a kind of slavery. And
it was not a lifestyle. With the onset of AIDS, as the playwright and
gay militant Larry Kramer said in a 1993 interview, it turned out to be a
death style. I have had some patients tell me, “Doctor, if I weren’t in
therapy, I’d be dead.”

[ In addition, child and youth sexual abuse is a major cause of homosexuality. A 1992 study of 1000 homosexuals found that 37% had been abused sexually by an older male. Socarides, Homosexuality: A Freedom Too Far , p. 88)

IN WAR, FIRST CASUALTY IS TRUTH

Testimonials from my recovered patients
make me feel my work is worthwhile-despite regular demands from the gay
rights community for my silence. What would they have me do? Pack my
bags, find a new profession, lock up a lifetime of research and
analysis, hide my truth under a bushel? It is not my psychoanalytic duty
to tell people they are marvelous when they are out of control, much
less ask disingenuous rhetorical questions like, “What kind of God would
afflict people with an ‘objective disorder’ in the disposition of their
hearts?”

Giving God the credit for their gayness is a persistent
refrain in much gay literature today, and I am saddened to see people
of evident good will become unwitting parties to the blasphemy. Gays
ascribe their condition to God, but he should not have to take that rap,
any more than he should be blamed for the existence of other man-made
maladies-like war, for instance, which has proven to be very unhealthy
for humans and for all other living things. God does not make war. Men
do.

And, when homosexuality takes on all the aspects of a
political movement, it, too, becomes a war, the kind of war in which the
first casualty is truth, and the spoils turn out to be our own
children. An exaggeration? Well, what are we to think when militant
homosexuals seek to lower the age of consensual sexual intercourse
between homosexual men and young boys to the age of 14 (as they did in
Hawaii in 1993) or 16 (as they tried to do in England in 1994)? In the
Washington March for Gay Pride in 1993, they chanted, “We’re here. We’re
queer. And we’re coming after your children.”

What more do we need to know?
—–

Note:  Does Homosexuality Threaten Society?Socarides – “Yes, and the most troubli9ng thing to me is that we don’t know it yet. The American public doesn’t understand.For more than 40 years the most basic institution in society has een under assault, while the nation’s traditional watch dog, the press, has been largely unconcerned…Sexual freedoms don’t give anyone the permission to destroy society. And that’s what the gay rights movement is doing, , destroying society, in the name of freedom, a fictive freedom.” (Homosexuality: A Freedom Too Far, pp.285-6)



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  • No, you are not excused. :mad:

  • over-controlling mothers and abdicating fathers. well there you go – problem solved.

  • I think you’re right. I think it comes from a messed up childhood. And as a survivor of incest and abuse, the one impression I’ve been left with for a long time is that the widespread acceptance of homosexuality is really a betrayal of the child, most likely abused or mistreated, that they once were. We’re so concerned with not making the adult feel excluded, that we give no thought to what the child he once was went through, or our obligation to show solidarity to HIM. But it’s not surprising. Because this society betrays and disregards children in so many ways.

    BTW, God bless you for the help you have provided to so many poor suffering souls.

  • MG

    This guy has no idea what he’s talking about. It’s the main stream religion that blocks us from our sexuality. Why? Because sex unlocks our spiritual connections.

    So we are told to be ashamed and never to do it because it’s a sin. The sin is we’ve been denied our chance to achieve our spiritual nature.

    For women it’s the charging of the 3 chakras.

    And men it’s pretty much the same.

    The real meaning of gay isn’t sex at all, it’s if you are able to be in love and be in a LTR with someone of your same sex. Engaging in sex for pleasure is what we are supposed to do, but we are told we are sinners if we do.

    Sexual magik and spirituality is our nature.

    Stop quoting the Bible it’s only here to keep us under control.

    • I tried to bring this up on a news article comment board. Sexuality has been repressed for decades and it started in Victorian europe.

      I was called a child molester for pointing out that kids used to have sex at much much younger ages centuries ago as a side effect of living much shorter lives. But my point was that sex was a concept that was understood by all age ranges and wasn’t something that was attempted to be hidden until ones 20th birthday or what not.

      dont point out that the catholic church is responsible either or every bible thumper will be after you.

  • I think we are on the road to saying people are born like that when it comes to all these sexual behaviors homosexual, ,pedophilia, incest. beastuality. If you have the urge you are born like that.
    Down the road to destruction we go.

  • Homosexuality is a spiritual problem. At some point in their lives, due to external forces, gays are enticed by spirits of perversion and they choose to engage in things that ought not to be done, unnatural things. But the Good News is they can be set free from these spirits of perversion by inviting Jesus into their hearts. Then the grace of Jesus will change them from the inside out—spirit, soul, and body. So they can pray the gay away, for it is a spiritual problem that must be dealt with spiritually.

  • AxisOfEvil

    “For more than 40 years, I have been in solidarity with hundreds of homosexuals, my patients, and I have spent most of my professional life engaged in a kind of “pastoral care” on their behalf.”

    Sounds like you might be a closet case, and you are jealous of the ones who live their lives freely, because you don’t have the courage to do the same.

  • Homosexuality doesn’t create babies. What would happen to humanity if being gay continued being more and more of a fashion that everyone’s into? Thats right we would be one of the lasts generations.

  • This arthur would Delete.
    my latest comment.
    Gay is choice like being misleaded without really knowing it
    i personaly have a Gay relative and i Am straight.
    and he is Very respectful unlike u.
    peace predictability.

  • Pix

    Who cares what other consenting adults do in private You’ve got to be one huge pervert to be so obsessed with other peoples sex lives and odiously arrogant to think you have any sort of say in it. MYOB.

    Nobody cares what you think. We have so moved on from kill the infidel/witch/Jew/Muslim/homosexual etc. Get a life already perverts. :lol:

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