Profile image
By Philosophers Stone
Contributor profile | More stories
Story Views

Last Hour:
Last 24 Hours:

The Real Joy of Giving and Receiving

Sunday, March 26, 2017 8:18
% of readers think this story is Fact. Add your two cents.

(Before It's News)

thegift-926x556 by Soren Dreier

Some people have trouble giving, some people have trouble receiving. Rarely do these two poles meet, fall in love and form a happy relationship. Since I won’t approach this on a psychological level but more a metaphysical level, I will just say that underneath those conditions there obviously can be some psychological issues to work on.

We might need to consider why and how we give and how we receive, and in that we also have to look at the conditioning both in the giver and in the receiver.

Society will have us believe that we somehow will get rewarded if we behave and we are good. Being good in that context means we fold to the demands of society, whether it be getting good school grades or doing what society wants, and we will get some kind of bonus. Since the Vortex point in this is called punishment and reward, which stems from behavioral psychology, which is the most primitive form of conditioning there is, hence: Pavlov’s Dogs.

So, if we do not behave – we get punished, either expressed punishment by some kind of judgment or just the lack of reward, endorsement, a gentle look and what have we. We get the cold or the silent treatment. The last is mean, since it often leaves us guessing as to what we did wrong or did not do to please our masters, bosses, teachers, parents and down that line.

Most of us are parents who were kids once, so we have to look really hard into ourselves to find out what we were conditioned to, and if it so much as slightly smells of Pavlov we might have to break the chains of conditioning. If you do not have children, it’s equally important to examine.

Well maybe our bad is really good and their good is really bad. So spiritually/metaphysically it does not make sense. For serving the system, it makes a lot of sense. All we do in our lives is to try to peel off the layers of either conscious conditioning, from whoever sets the parameter for good or bad, to find our own parameter of the same qualities.

The gifts are not real, since they come with a motive or on special occasions. The gifts are not real because they are bribes:

“If you do this and that – I will reward you.”

Any form of gift that comes with an alternate motive is not a gift, it is manipulation and it exposes the ‘giver’ and the giver’s agenda and once we see that, we will refuse the gift. Until we learn to do that, receiving a conditioned gift is both embarrassing and awkward. That is the reason that we do not want gifts because we know we are being bought. Not to be confused with any trouble in receiving. It’s a question of awareness.


Facebooktwittergoogle_plusredditpinterestlinkedinmail Philosophers stone – selected views from the boat


Report abuse


Your Comments
Question   Razz  Sad   Evil  Exclaim  Smile  Redface  Biggrin  Surprised  Eek   Confused   Cool  LOL   Mad   Twisted  Rolleyes   Wink  Idea  Arrow  Neutral  Cry   Mr. Green

Top Stories
Recent Stories



Email this story
Email this story

If you really want to ban this commenter, please write down the reason:

If you really want to disable all recommended stories, click on OK button. After that, you will be redirect to your options page.