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We Can’t Change Others – Or Can We?

Sunday, April 12, 2015 14:55

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13th April 2015

By Nanice Ellis

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

The Quantum Shift

It is said that we cannot change others, but what if we really could? Now, I’m not talking about trying to make someone change or evenasking someone to change. I’m talking about influencing change through a very radical approach.

This Quantum Shift will give you the immediate power to transform virtually every one of your relationships, but first you must be open to the possibility that reality changes and morphs according to you and your thoughts, and you must also be willing to take this responsibility.

Granted, it appears that we all share a single universe and everyone is having the same experience of the world, but it is simply not so. The truth is, there are completely different and unique universes for each and every one of us. This means that the universe that you experience is Custom Made for you.

This also means that we don’t just see things differently – life is actually responding differently. Those differences are directly related to who we are and how we see ourselves, each other and the world. Indeed, there are billions of different realities going on right now.

Infinite versions.

If we each live in our own personal universe, this means that everyone in your universe is specific to you, and if you shift, grow or evolve, those in your universe must change accordingly. This can be the toughest thing to comprehend, but when you really get it, you have uncovered an incredible power like no other.

So, perhaps you are wondering, if there are infinite versions of every person in existence, or more precisely, in your life, what determines which version shows up? The version of any one person that you experience is directly related to who you are – and based on your expectations, beliefs, emotions and even how you see that person. As you shift and change yourself, you immediately experience a different version of the same person.

Let’s look at the four ways in which we influence the reality of others.

What You Believe

The entire world is unconditionally demonstrating your beliefs. There is no such thing as unconscious beliefs because life is constantly and consistently manifesting your beliefs. Everyone who shows up in your day is reflecting your personal beliefs, about life, about you and about them. If you believe the world is a hostile place, you get hostile people. If you believe most people are kind, people will demonstrate kindness.

How You Feel

How you feel, at any given moment, sends out a vibratory energy that life immediately reflects back to you. This is the law of attraction. If you feel happy and light hearted, others will reflect that, and if you feel down and depressed, others will reflect that, as well.

What You Expect

What you expect in any situation directly influences what you will experience. Have you ever found yourself saying, “I knew that would happen”? Have you considered that it was your knowing that actually made it happen? People cannot show up any better or different than you expect them to. Most of the time, we base our expectations on how we judge someone or how they have shown up in the past. What we fail to understand is that our expectations and judgements actually lock in those negative aspects of that person.

How You See Someone

How you see a person at any given moment calls forth that version of that person. This means if you are judging someone or focusing on the things that you do not like about that person, you will experience exactly that. If you want to know how you see someone, notice how they show up for you.

So, how does this work in real life?

Imagine moving into a new neighborhood and finding out that your next door neighbor is irrationally angry with a history of violence – hated by every person on the block for his unkind acts, outward hostility and arsenal of weapons, which he displayed when feeling the least bit threatened. What would you do? Most people would go right along with the neighborhood viewpoint – thinking of this man as the negative being that he appeared to be, and experiencing just that.

Well, I have a dear friend who found herself in this exact situation, but instead of joining the ranks of her defensive neighbors, she decided to do something completely radical. She decided to love this man and think kindly of him. She disregarded every derogatory idea about her next door neighbor, and she chose to see the best in him – but, because he didn’t show this “good side” to anyone, she made it up. Then the most interesting thing happened – he actually became the person that she had imagined him to be; continuously showing her kindness and good will – he even began to smile. At first, the rest of the neighborhood didn’t experience this kind and loving man. They still got the hostile grumpy version, but little by little, over time, the man began to show up differently for the neighbors, and they also began to see him more harmoniously. All because one person had the courage to think differently.

You might say, “How can I see someone positively when they are acting so negatively – aren’t I ignoring reality?”

It is our egos that keep us from shifting our viewpoints about others.

We believe that if people act badly in any way, they deserve our negative attention, even if it is silently to ourselves. Because we feel justified in seeing them in a negative light, we lock in that version. But, who does it serve? We are really punishing ourselves by trying to punish them. On a grander scale, we are even contributing to the negativity of the planet.

It is our private shift in consciousness that allows another version of reality to be experienced. Simply seeing someone in a more positive manner, aligns you with a more positive version of that person.

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