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A Valentine’s Day Question– Am I Loved?
On Valentine’s Day just about every guy can do what you expect of him. After all, he doesn’t have to travel too far or spend too much to purchase cards, chocolates and flowers.
But, Valentine’s Day is a Celebration of Love.
It’s not a celebration of drugstore gifts. It’s a celebration of what you and your guy share every day of the year. Unfortunately, not every guy on this planet is capable of loving you.
I repeat———————– Some men can not love you!
It has nothing to do with you——–it’s all about a problem that he has.
It’s about a personality flaw that he possessed long before he ever met you.
So—– you must always be aware of this fact and not waste months and years trying to coax love out of a loveless being.
As the Beatles sang –” LOVE IS ALL THERE IS ” And—nothing can make up for its absence.
My favorite definition of love is based on a quote by Jeremy Taylor and goes something like this:
” Love is Friendship set on Fire“
The Friendship part is based on patience, kindness and caring that your partner almost constantly sends your way. When set on fire, those feelings expand into something profoundly romantic, intense and never ending.
The ability to set a friendship on fire is an impossibility for some men. These men generally have a type of personality disorder that sets them up to bring you trouble rather than happiness. There are 5 classic types of these –Can’t Love You Guys– whom I refer to as the O-BAND group. Let’s take a look at each guy type in the O-BAND.
O–Guys
O— stands for obsessive compulsive personality. These guys are domineering, inflexible and workaholic types. They are totally into the details of life. Consequently, they will pay more attention to a minor fault in the woman they are with than to all of her wonderful qualities. In other words, they cannot see the forest for the trees! Do you remember the guy who Julia Roberts tries to escape from in ” Sleeping With the Enemy?” —A typical O-Guy!
B–Guys
B– stands for borderline personality. These guys are unstable. One minute they are idealizing you and you feel great — the next minute they are devaluing you and you feel horrible. It’s either good or bad with no middle. And, if you’re away for a few days—-watch out—–because their favorite song is the old Crosby, Stills &Nash classic—”If You Can’t Be With the One You Love—Love the One You’re With!”
A–Guys
A– stands for anti-social personality. These guys are also unstable but they will charm you. The problem is they don’t have a conscience and therefore that seductive charm you are treated to is mostly based on lies. And—the lies are just the beginning of bad behaviors like cheating, stealing and violence. Just think of any of the “Sopranos” or the Jack Nicholson character in “The Shining” and you’ll know who I’m talking about.
N–Guys
N—stands for narcissistic personality. These guys hang with you only to build up their own self esteem. Meanwhile he will blame you, exploit you and eventually discard you for someone who he thinks is richer, more popular or more beautiful. Life with him is all about him. Remember Gordon Gekko in “Wall Street”. Yeah, he can’t exactly empathize with how you’re feeling because “He’s So Vain.”
D–Guys
D– stands for dependent personality. These guys only have one thing to say to you—-”Take care of me!” They are over emotional, always complaining of physical ailments for you to help them with and always asking you what they should do next. They want to be with you but not in a 50/50 relationship—–more like a 90/10 —and you are responsible for taking care of the 90! Think of the Bill Murray character in “What About Bob” and you’ll know what a dependent guy is like.
So, on this Valentine’s Day, look around. Do you see an O-BAND type? If you don’t feel loved then take a good long look and then hopefully, many steps back. And then—-Forget Him—-Because He Doesn’t Love You and Never Will.
As Bobby Rydell sang —–Forget Him If He Doesn’t Love You————-Listen up!
2012-09-10 02:16:56
Source: http://relationshipradar.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/a-valentines-day-question-am-i-loved/
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